Episode 271 – 10 hardcore things to declutter from your home

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Today we're going hardcore when you've made great strides in your decluttering journey, but still, you could go one step further, there are certain things that are going to take you to the next level. Now some of these things will require a big sharp intake of breath. In this podcast, we're going to delve into 10 things in your home, and determine whether these are truly serving you in your current life and deserve a place in your home.

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You're listening to the declutter Apple podcast, bringing you tried and tested no nonsense tips and advice from the leading experts in decluttering and organizing your home. Now here are your hosts, Ingrid Jansen, and Lesley Spellman.

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Hello, and welcome, listeners. I'm Ingrid. And I'm Lesley. If you're new to the declutter hub podcast, you're so welcome. What you'll find is that we try and find a fun factor in the serious business of decluttering. And if you've been here for a while, you know exactly what we mean. So thank you so much for listening. If

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Lesley, it's a 10 Things podcast, we love them, we always get very excited, and always a little bit giddy. And I must admit the list that we've created for today. Oh, I feel I feel we're going to have people emailing in.

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Yeah, I'm not feeling good. I'm feeling kind of nervous because even I'm nervous about some of these things on this list, right? We said we're going to go hardcore. And that is what we're gonna do. So if you're at the beginning of your decluttering journey and tuning into this podcast for the first time, this is not standard declutter hub stuff. This is when you really want to go to the nth degree. But even if you are right at the beginning of your decluttering journey, hopefully will give you some hints and tips about the types of things that you need to think about. Further down the line. We don't want to scare anybody off right, Ingrid? I don't want to scare people are so even we're like, Oh, that would be like really hard. But anyway, yeah. Ready to jump in and talk about the kinds of things that hardcore decluttering

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I know let's just I think we should just dive in Lesley, because we can talk about this for ages but let's just go on with number one. Why is that CD DVD, vinyl collection still in your house? Gathering up dust when you can let it go? Who

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Oh, Radek car. Okay, so let's cut to the chase. I feel like it's like a potentially a competition here. I think we might need to mark it down and do a competition. So have you still got CDs and or DVDs and or vinyl in your home?

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No vinyl, no CDs. Couple of DVDs left?

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A couple really? Couple?

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No, not a couple. About 50. A

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couple. A couple and now we've gone from a couple to 50.

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It's not like a whole bookcase full. When

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does this 50. A couple is two stroke three, but a couple of two. But we'll give you three but not 50. You're mad. But they'll Okay.

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Two or three or four boxes with about

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paper boxes. Okay? All the boxes are 10. So no CDs not. There's all two of you did you go you went through a process right downloading them all onto you don't even need to do that anymore, do you because botsify and all that. But we a lot of us went through that process of keeping our original d&d collection and downloading it or whatever it's called onto into our own hard drives not necessary anymore. But it still makes a lot of people better to keep all of your old archive together, rather than getting it all mixed up with the stuff that you can stream. So that CD is taken care of. So that is dealt with and that is a possibility. So we're talking about hardcore decluttering it might fill you with fear and dread but the nice thing about CD collection and the DVD collection is that there is an easy alternative. So this is something that you can absolutely do.

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Yes. So how about you then Lesley? Well,

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I'm not responsible for CDs and DVDs in my house. My husband dies so it will come as no surprised whatsoever that they're all still intact. He has made some inroads, but there's a long way to go. There's not a man who lets things go easily. Let's just say that hundreds. Oh, yes.

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And you're parading me over my favorite rating you

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have a saying a couple when it was down number eight, and you're having them. It's your personal choice. But it's your terminology of a couple when you mean today, if our members said a couple when they meant 50, that's very different. Right?

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All right. All right. All right. Maybe we need to cut it out, Lesley?

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Absolutely know, people need to see what I have to deal with on a day. CDs and DVDs. Yes, it is hardcore decluttering if you love it, because some people love that physical feeling of a DVD and a CD. But they still take up quite a lot of space in your home. And so you really need to look at every today is not like you have to do these things today is all about evaluating the space that they're taking her up in your house. And whether or not that's worth it. Do they deserve that spot in your home? Or can you take it to that next level, the bottom line is getting to that next level can be quite a big job. At the very least, you probably won't want to go on to put a record together of what you had, just for nostalgia reasons, maybe what do you think about that, like listing things out?

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I never did, which is quite unlike me, because I'm a list maker. But I was like, I just don't want to have two CDs in my house anymore. Put everything on the computer boom done. Took a long time. They didn't This is not like was one evening. We had we had a very big job. But we were like, okay, you know, we have to let them go.

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And we talked about vinyl right as well. Now vinyl is something that's come back to bite a lot of people, right. So a lot of people back in the kind of 90s early noughties got rid of their vinyl collection, and have huge regrets now over getting rid of those because vinyls come back in and is coveted really? And so do we think? And I know we can't kind of imagine what's gonna happen in the future. That CDs and DVDs are going to come back as a medium.

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I don't know. You know what? I don't think anybody expected vinyl to come back. I mean, we had a whole bunch of final. We had a record player. At one point I was like, right, we've been I've been looking at this for 15 years or 20 years because it was my husband's, please, we've not we've done like two final final records in like one per decade. Why is it still in my house? And we could read a bit and every once in a while is like how wish we still had it and like, but we still wouldn't have done it because we stream and we listen and we would go Spotify and Amazon music and all of those things. And I don't know, you know?

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Ha, get it as an alternative. But I think the vinyl is either the vinyl for us would when we still have vinyl here. It would be nostalgic value. Looks very cool, right? Yeah. We never play it. But it looks very cool. And also to hand it down. So Luke, for example, definitely 100% listens to vinyl because but he does events and all that kind of stuff as well. So he would use the vinyl, I mean my records from the 80s about you but I had this like tiny little record player that was smaller than the actual records themselves. And I just used to throw them around and they were all scratched and stuff. I didn't really take care of things. And so it wouldn't be something that you could play a techno event, you know what I mean? But anyway, so first thing on our list CDs, DVDs, vinyl, evaluate whether or not these are serving you in your current life. And that could be the first thing on your hardcore decluttering list. Yes.

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I'm already kind of breathing deeply about number two allegedly, are. So number two on our list of things we want you to think about in hardcore, declutter inherited family photos, ducks under her desk and heights away from the historians that we're gonna get grief from.

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I know it's interesting. I see. I actually think this is probably an easier decision than CDs, DVDs and vinyl because CDs, DVDs and vinyl typically would be our memories. Yeah, there are memories that aren't nostalgia. There are things we have a direct connection to those. We're talking about inherited family photos. So what we're talking about what I'm talking about here is not the things that I've got, you know, my mama on when I was with her, just me I'm talking about things of your parents that are maybe they're nostalgic photographs of people that perhaps you don't know you weren't there you had no knowledge of them going on a trip when in 1930 or whatever it was. And so memories that you have no recollection of yourself because you have not been told about those things up Horse, there is a family history element to that if you're going down that route, and that's very important to know about nostalgia and you know, family history and genealogy and all that kind of stuff. That's a different reason. But if it's literally a holiday that someone went that your parents went on, do you have no memory on that don't give you a warm, fuzzy feeling inside that you know nothing about? Should we be keeping those. So I'm not saying for one minute that we ditch the whole family collection of photographs. But I'm saying that we that we look through those photos, and we evaluate, which are either useful from a family history perspective, or that give us memories? Yeah,

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I think I think you're right, Lesley, I mean, a photo of a lake that my husband used to go to in 1963. In Italy, with not not even them on it. Why would I keep that? So I think it's you have to look at the UN individually. You know, you can't just say I'm going to, I think what we're saying is, don't keep everything but keep the best ones. I think that's what we're saying, right? But just because it is worse from the family, and we have to remain and keep everything. That's not true. You don't have to, you can go hardcore and go, actually, I'm going to send this out, I'm going to keep the best of the times where I can see my parents where I can see my family, where I can see maybe my aunts and uncles that in a younger version that you still know, but you don't have to keep older. The pictures of scenery and things that you were not even there and the photos you know, there were such nicer quality these days. I mean, the olden days of photos. Were not fantastic, right? You're talking

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about the olden days. I mean, what you talked about the olden days. What about the 70s? So a lot of 40s and stuff. Like they were like, the problem is with those photos look incredible why they're exactly the kind of thing that you put up on your wall because it looks super cool, right? Whereas like, you know, there's kind of two for one, you know, that you got in the 80s not so good quality. Yeah. But back in the day, there was great quality photographs. And they look really cool. That's the problem as well, is that they look really cool because it's been enough time passed by. So yeah, inherited family photos, split down that collection and look English like huffing and puffing already know this. This is hardcore. I

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know. This is like, oof. You know, I love photographs. And we love to graphs are not equal. Yeah, true, true truth. I'm going to swiftly move on to number three lesson. Oh my gosh, this is another one, an engagement or wedding ring from somebody that you never married, but they gave you or somebody that you were married to, but you got divorced from so I recognize

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this might be quite triggering for some people as well. You know, this is hard, you know? Because this is wrapped up in difficult times, isn't it? You know, so some people go through a divorce quite amicably. But that's the exception rather than the rule most of the time, you know, divorces and or being jilted at the altar or not going through with an engagement or whatever that is, is hard, emotional stuff to bear and brings us back to a very difficult time in our lives for the most part. Do we then keep hold of the memory of that the kind of evidence then of that? Ingrid is silent in good silence.

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I'm now thinking because my I don't even I don't know if no, she'd mind me sharing this. My Mum Mum Mum got divorced in this in the 60s, which was quite unusual at the time. I don't even know if she kept the wedding and asked her this actually, the oh, this might be a question for our Sunday zoom. Oh, by the way, Mum, if you still got your wedding ring

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away, Mum, I outed you on this week's podcast. And retrospectively Can I ask you a question about your divorce that might You might feel very sad about that I've laid out to the world. What your Sunday Zoom is going to be I know, I know. I know what she's saying. We might have to edit it out. Still in the podcast, you know that she was okay with it.

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I know. I know it is. But I can't remember. I mean, I've never been with anybody else that my husband so I don't have another wedding rig or a gauge breakers. i It's hard it but on the other hand, I think if it makes you really sad, do you want to have it in your house? Yes, I agree. And that's I think what the crux is, isn't it? Um,

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you know, the thing is for me is I'm always you know, we're we're not judgmental people, right, because of the job that we do. And we understand the kind of struggles that people have through life and how they bring them to a certain point. But I'm always keen to not think what I would do because you never know what you could do unless you've walked in someone's shoes. Just me so I don't know whether that's I know of people that I have been with when I've been decluttering. And they've gone, I'm ready to get rid of that engagement ring or wedding ring or repurpose it, a lot of people repurpose them, so that it's not actually the ring, but it's still, you know, the value that's in that gold or diamond or whatever it is, can be repurposed into something different. And people are satisfied with that, or give it back also possible, you know, so there's various things you can do. But I think it's really in terms of its value to you, it's whether or not it is a triggering thing to have in your house. Same principle for number four that we're going to go on to as well in grid, which is, and we see this a lot people struggle to let go of a difficult time in their life. So we've had people going through a divorce, we're talking about divorce papers, here, we're talking about legal trials that people have gone through. So maybe I don't know, a job tribunal, you know, that kind of employment tribunal or something like that, or a difficult situation that you found yourself in, where you had to do something legal about it. There's something inside us that feels as if we had such an injustice, you know, particularly if it's a messy divorce, it feels unjust. And we almost feel like we need to keep hold at the evidence that somebody did something unjust to us to see what I mean, I think there's, that's what I've seen over the years is that it's that kind of emotion, but I need to prove to other people, that this person was so terrible to me, then keep the divorce papers, the legal trial papers, the whatever those papers relate to as kind of evidence. But all that that does is make you sad, angry, unhappy, fearful, all of the above. So I don't know, again, because I've not encountered this kind of thing in my own personal life. But I know that when people have got rid of chosen to get rid of those things, it has been very freeing. Yeah,

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it's lifted, it's lifted, this kind of pressure off their shoulders, almost, it's like, you can feel them. Okay, that's behind me now, instead of it's staring at in my face the whole time. Once

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again, I want to sort of reiterate that this is what we would consider to be hardcore decluttering not something that you just got to get the divorce papers thing in the bag. That's not what we're saying we're saying is probably something that you're going to see leave, see, again, leave again, see, again, leave again. And then when you get to a stage where you feel happy in your home, where you're happy with what you've done, and you go, I need to do a little bit more, because I'm downsizing or whatever that might be some of the impetus that's taking you to that hardcore plays, that's when you're doing it. So this is not like, Oh, you need to get rid of your divorce purpose. By the way, we're not saying that at all. We're saying this is when you really go into the next level of decluttering. Yeah, yeah.

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Let's just go on quickly to number five, Lesley, which I think is like it's so hard as well, on finished craft projects, how many do we find those in our, in our clients and members houses, they've started the craft, they loved it at the time, they started some of them on a small or sometimes on a very big project and didn't finish it because they lose lost interest, or they didn't have enough time. Or they found another craft that they enjoyed more, or they got bored of it. You know, I mean, there's loads of reasons why people have unfinished things, but then it sits there staring at them going, you need to I'm unfinished, I'm unfinished. When are you going to finish me and the guilds, the guilds? When are you going to finish me? You're going to finish me I know, but it's the guilt around it. That is really, really hard. And I think, you know, I think a loss of realism is neither but also lots of bravery to look into yourself and go actually, am I going to finish this? Or is this something that is just it's like people who are reading a book, they're not enjoying, and they're like forcing themselves to finish the book because they've started I

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think it's the same thing, but it's not the same as not finishing a craft projects is not the same as not finishing a block to a crafter to craft Okay. All right. Next level, right? No,

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I don't know. Some people with their books. They're really like, and they have need to have that purpose that they finished that book, even although they've gotten they've got shelves full of them. But they're like, I have to finish this one because I started it and I felt I spent the time on it.

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And you're not gonna get that sentiment that people do that and kind of perpetuate that. And I got much better at that. Same with TV series as well. You like I've literally invested 16 episodes, even though I hate it. I've got to do the other eight just to go I've invested too much time to go backwards almost right. Yeah. But I think you know, I think the problem is with craft projects is that You're kind of admitting that you did it that you failed. It's almost like admitting failure in some ways, isn't it? That's the kind of psychological impact of that you had an aspirational idea to do this craft projects, which you didn't fulfill. So therefore, you feel in some strange way, like you failed, and you think, oh, I need to come back to that I need to come back to it, and it's come back to it. And that's why it's so difficult to let go off. So it's brave for a crafter. You know, we know you know, we did a craft master class recently. We know the kind of, you know, the clinging on to craft projects that people have who really are very invested in that craft. Yeah. So let's just do a tally before we go to a break. So first five, how many have we got two

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DVDs lurking around? And I definitely have like, look, I don't have them inherited yet, but they're coming my family photos. And

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if we can't talk about your mom's things when it's still in mom's house. Yeah, they

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are. Now the next one DVDs.

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And I've got one. I've got one. So we're one out of five.

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So which one is you then? DVDs as well? CDs, DVDs and

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vinyl got more? We've never been married or divorced. That was number three and four. Yeah, I've been married. Sorry. I've never been divorced. That was a couple of things. My family photos. I'm happy that I've gone through and taken out the ones that are truly special. And we're not crafters. So it's quite easy. One out of five going to the break. Yeah.

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Let's go to a break. Hi, everyone. Welcome back. I think I've calmed down a bit, although I'm a bit worried about this next loads of number six and number 10. So maybe I need to do more heavy breathing, just to calm myself down. But okay, let's just do number six clothes that are not in your size. Hardcore Declutter. You can't fit in it. Let it go.

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That scares me. That really scares me. Yeah, it's hardcore. decluttering to let allow yourself no leeway whatsoever. This will be an easy one for people whose weight doesn't fluctuate. Yeah, they're like, nailed it. I mean, but for people like me, whose weight does fluctuate mostly in the upwards direction, and if I'm being honest, the thoughts of not aspirationally trying to cling on to the idea that I would lose weight, or, you know, squeezing into things. Feels me with fear and dread. But I get it, and it would be what we talk about. We're not that we're not that hardcore in any of the ways that we declutter, you'll find this in the declutter, we're not big advocates of hardcore decluttering. So I don't even know why we're doing this podcast, like scary was scaring ourselves. Some people out there will really like this, like this kind of level, you know, the first few things for people but we're a bit more kind of warm and fluffy with our, with our ideas, and anything goes right. But yeah, clothes that are not in your size. I don't know what to say other than it is hardcore for people whose weight fluctuates, but it is possible, and it's something that you absolutely could do. And if you want to do what we advocate, which is only having things in your wardrobe that you can wear, then it's what needs to be done. Yeah, in principle, right?

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Yeah. I'm gonna admit, I've got a couple of bits. I've got a couple of like, 50 No, no, no, no, no, really? A handful. Yeah. Oh,

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we've gone from couple to a handful. Yeah, any advance on handful know

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how many I've got I think about five. Okay, yeah, so I've got a jacket that I really like that is a size too small size. Yeah, I've got a top a pink top I love the color short sleeve for the summer. And I kind of had to this year gotta go No. And I've got I think three dresses that I that I love so much that I mean I'm not a dress person as you know, so if I buy a dress or invest in it, but there's three I think three or so in there that I'm taking I don't think I can fit in them so

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I think there's a difference isn't there between what you can fit and what looks good like as we get lumpy and bumpy the somewhere you know that they do fit them I know but they're not flattering to me. So I can I can squeeze in. No Lesley No. You still kind of cling on that somehow it's gonna change. But anyway, so many times but yeah, that is our number six. So we're both saying yes to that. You're saying a couple stroke handful stroke five and I'm saying more than that

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right, let's go on to number seven then letters or car But mainly letters and things from people who were unkind. Let it go.

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Could be a text as well. Your Yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah, I mean, yeah, we're back to hardcore, like, emotional stuff now aren't we. But this again, similar to the things that we've spoken about before, like the, you know, the legal papers or the engagement ring, you know, these are things that often bring us unhappy memories, and particularly, you know, there's, you know, with a marriage or an engagement, those happy things wrapped up in that dinner to mean with a letter from someone who is unkind. It's just unkind. And we've got these things, these things exist around us. And they come at you like a whirlwind when you find them, and set you right back if you find those things when you're on your decluttering journey. And that's why we are big advocates of letting go anything that has got bad memories only attached to it.

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Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I mean, if it's negative, if it brings you down, you should you don't need that in your life. You know, life is so short, we have to make honestly the most of it and grab every moment and all that negativity in your house. It's a must bring back negative energy or something. I think it's just not good for you.

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Yeah. So for me, this is, this is a non negotiable, I must have met, it feels hardcore hardcore to a lot of people. May it's you should do this. Because I can't see any benefit of keeping it. What would be the benefit of keeping it other than what we were talking about before, which is to kind of prove to others? How many people have been? Yeah. And there might be a legal reason. Yeah. So if there was something that you felt that it was going to, you need to go down a legal route, at some point, I can understand that. But if it's just a generic letter, monogenetic, but if it's just a letter with terrible things said in it, yeah. Hurtful, unkind things. Let it go.

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Yeah. I don't think I've got any of those in my house. Let's see. I'm like, I'm not thinking back. And I'm like, No, I don't think so.

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I mean, if I'm being really honest, I don't think I've ever had one of those letters. No, someone's been really unkind. Yeah. If I'm honest, yeah. Because many people have, you know, we we, you know, yeah, in the decluttering world, many people have undergone serious issues and trauma, often instigated by other people. And so that forms a big part of our world. So we count ourselves as lucky that we don't have those. Yeah, but we know that it absolutely exists in our world. So think about that. These are very, very triggering things for people. So we, you know, we we are going to put a trigger warning on this podcast, because some of the things that we're talking about, are difficult to sort of think about, but yeah, definitely

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good idea. Number eight collectibles that you might have had on display at one point, or you might have collected at one point, but then you didn't anymore, you kind of maybe lost interest or it got out of hand you've boxed it up. You put it somewhere in your loft to your attic, in your basement or your spare bedroom in the top of the cupboards. And now it's like gather gathering dust taking up space, you've lost interest in it by their collectibles.

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What was your thing that used

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to collect stamps?

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No, it wasn't it was something else. It was like windmills or something? Like it was like some

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Yeah, windmills on stamps.

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No, it was something else. You've talked about it before.

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I mean, my grandmother used to collect little Maria statues. And I used to have one of those, you know, do you remember when we were young at these brown wooden boxes with all the little tiny shells? You could put like small little things like yeah,

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you can still get those, though. I kind of like I don't know people get used to like put little printed letters in them and everything like little kind of segments. It's like stuff. Yeah.

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When like, when you go on holiday you can buy like a tiny souvenir. You could put it in there. That's long gone. I don't even remember when but I had like one of my on my wall and I loved it. But

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I'm just trying to think about what that thing was that you collect. It's definitely something like Dutch as a child. Yeah,

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I stamped I collected stamps. I loved it.

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I'll leave it there afterwards. I'm gonna get you to we've we've talked about it in a podcast or a q&a or something. I remember. Maybe, maybe I'm thinking of someone else that I sit talking about these things on podcasts.

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What have you What did you collect when you were young then?

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I didn't collect anything when I was young. But Steve collect stamps. And then I'm thinking about my mother in law collected Swarovski crystal.

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My mum was well, yeah, yeah.

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And so what do we do with these things when that collection stops being a collection, and we fall a little bit out of love with it, because the thing is that people keep on buying you these things because that you like them. And so you amassed quite a lot and then you fall out of love with it. And then it sits in the box. Yeah. What do we do with that? Well,

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my mum took over my stem collection. And one point she said, I'm downsizing. I'm selling it all boom, gone.

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I'm going the Johnson School of decluttering, doesn't she? She's hardcore, isn't she?

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Oh, she is hardcore. I think I sell which one album with my windmill stamps. I think that's it.

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And that's the point. I think we go for quality over quantity. So we retained a reminder of that collection. And choose our favorite things that remind us of what we did in the past. But it's tricky. It is tricky when it's a collection because often it will have value. Often it will be the all of these things deserve to be together and it's just the number of things that you've got that make it a worthwhile thing to have to trick a but if it's taking up space, yeah, some point

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a friend a friend of mine collected collects are collected owls that was like so everything that every when you see somebody going out and my aunt and uncle collected honey pots. That's it. That's what it is

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the honey pots. Oh, you I thought was you alright, your aunt and uncle? Yeah, yeah. Okay, I knew what I knew was some set, but it's your aunt and uncle. Okay.

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And they had like, hundreds, they had a whole basement with like beautiful display cases. And so when they downsize, they could only take that one display case with their most coveted ones and everything else went. Yeah, yeah.

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So it's a hardcore. I got to the bottom of that I was really bothering me. But anyway. Okay. So, yes, so collectibles. Really, really, really hardcore decluttering to split up a collection? Yeah, sometimes it's necessary. Typically, when you're downsizing and things like

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that. Yeah. Yeah. Let's go to the next one. To start with, as well as Lee furniture that has a history in your family. Whether it is a dresser, or a coat stand or a desk or a rocking chair for a veranda or a moses basket where all the babies were ate. I mean, whatever it is, if it's up somewhere in your shed, or garage or loft or basement, being unused and unloved? Can you let it go hardcore, let it go, even if it's not being used?

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Yeah, I'm kind of looking at. I do love those things, those kinds of things. So I've got a lot of old things in my house that have come from various places, my grandparents, not got anything from my parents house. But I've got it kind of went via my parents, to be fair, by Graham grandparents grandfather clock, I've got older things from the owner of the last house we were in, which was a Victorian property. I've got stuff from this one. So I love it. But I've got a Victorian house. And so it lends itself very much to sit in here. And so, but there's one thing that Steve refuses to get rid of which is in the basement, not on display, which is a desk that his dad made for him when he was a child, so and it's quite big, and he just refuses to get rid of it. Yeah, it's just sitting there gathering dust. And I keep trying to think of ways that I can do something with that that's going to bring it into modern life, like maybe because it still goes to the concerts and maybe I can kind of cover it over with concert tickets or, but there's just no space for at the moment in the house is so it's hard, isn't it. But I know one of the things that a lot of our members really love when they get down to that get down to the kind of wire is when furniture starts going out of the house. Yeah, so it depends, you know, I'm lucky because I kind of got space for a lot of these things. But if you've not got space, you've got to make radical decisions is an old piece of furniture, that's perhaps not optimum optimum storage. Is that what you want in your house? Or are you better off with something more modern?

34:11
And I think as well as I think what a lot of our members they go through you know, this whole transformation right and of course in the past their thinking was I have a lot of stuff I need to buy more furniture to put all this stuff away. So more and more furniture comes into the house whether it's given or whether it's you know, bought or whatever it is. And then at one point is like but I actually all this furniture isn't is blocking the way I want my house to feel. And there's less stuff now to put away because I've decluttered a lot of the stuff I'm being far more realistic and what I'm going to use a love and then at one point when we see that furniture libral, a major breakthrough major breakthrough alert, because they're ready now to to let that go. because there's not so much stuff and but also that realism. I have that rocking chair in my house somewhere, but actually, it's too big for the room. I love it. It's fantastic. But it's too big for my house. It's too big for the room. It keeps going from one end to the other and everywhere I put it, it just doesn't fit. And it's working against me instead of working towards where I want to go. So furniture is a big one always.

35:24
Definitely. So number nine only one last thing left Ingrid's Yes,

35:29
one left and it's also a sharp intake one. Hardcore. Can you get rid of your wedding dress your communion dress your baptism dress your I was a bridesmaid dress. I was the mother of the bride dress. I was my 21st birthday. Oh, no

35:51
trousers. What about men? Yeah.

35:52
Suits? Yeah.

35:56
Suit. Yeah. Yeah, this is different. So we're not talking about you know, a lot of the things we've talked about relating to weddings and engagements and things like that. I've been kind of negative where relationships have fallen apart. But we're not talking about necessarily a relationship having fallen apart. We're talking about something that's still very special to you, because it brings back special memories. But the reason why why you want to might want to let go of it is because it's taken up an awful lot of space. So we've done a whole podcast on wedding dresses, right, Ingrid? Yeah. Yeah.

36:28
I still have my wedding dress. I started with my

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wedding dress. And I tried it on which was a mistake. Why did I put myself through that? Yeah, no, I was 30 years married. And so I was like, yeah, cool idea. We bought wedding dress on and I was like, oh, doesn't even zip up. On my actual arms and bottom bed. Yeah. And zip it up. Yeah.

36:56
But maybe you know if all this I think it's not only wedding dresses, all the other things as well. All the sentimental clothing, you can have really too much of a good thing. I have nothing. I have nothing from my 40th or 21st or bridesmaid and anything like that. Nothing. I have only the wedding dress. And I think that's the one sentimental item. And of course I've got the dress that I bought when I was 50 but I've only been 50 like three months. So I want to I want to I'm planning on wearing that dress is definitely again.

37:28
The style to sentimental dress. That's exactly. You could wear a T wearing that. Yeah. When he was what's the next event? You could wear that to a wedding. You could totally wear that to a wedding. Yeah. Yeah. So if anybody didn't see that we put pictures on the Facebook group of your 50s

37:44
No, I think we just we shared with our members, our members saw our

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pictures. Pop a picture on the Facebook group people would like to see that Ingrid. I'll think about it. Yeah, I could put a picture of me trying on my wedding. It would make for a fun content piece. What if

38:06
you did that I will share my 50th birthday picture. Those two things and other say you

38:13
can fit in your 50th wedding. Like I cannot fit in my wedding dress that I wore when I was 25 But anyway,

38:21
so allegedly come clean. Which of these five after the break? Have you got it definitely have clothes that are nothing of your size? You've already told me that and

38:32
I've got a wedding dress, but I've got finished well yeah, I suppose then I've got furniture with history. It's not mine. It's Steve's Does that count? Not really no. On the in the winning front Ingrid of like, yeah, that counts. Yeah, so I've got wedding dress in my house. I've got a furniture with history. I do not have collectibles. I do have clothes or not in my size and I don't have a letter from someone who was unkind. So what's the tally?

38:56
I don't have a letter of some kind either. Well, I have clothes that are not your size but about five of them. So I think that is negligible

39:06
it's a fight. It's a finite it's not kind of like a numbers game. You've either got them or you've not okay.

39:11
Okay. I've got a minor in collectibles that not on display anymore. Well, yeah, I've got one stamp album with stamp so that that counts. furniture with history. No, I have one emotions. Boska. That's in the Jensen generation, but that's not mine. That's the Janssens, so don't have that. Yes.

39:30
I know that counts, because I'm counting the furniture with history. If it's in your house. Oh,

39:35
but I thought you said it because it seems you're not going to count it but you're counting. I'm gonna count it. Oh, well, then I have to count it too. And, yes, I've got the wedding. We're not doing well on this side of the break, Lesley.

39:48
So we are I think we're equal away. Yeah,

39:51
I think so.

39:52
I've got three Ingrid, how can you have three? Because I'm fine with the furniture with history because it's in use. That's called Letter is in use. I've got it, but it's in use. And so and the same with your stamp album that you've chosen that they need to keep that as a sentimental object, so that's not clutter.

40:10
Ah, okay. Right. Well, my Well, the most bosses are clutter either, but it's helpful not in use, and it's

40:21
definitely not for me, I can tell you that. Anyway. Oh, my goodness gracious. Well, I've lost track now.

40:27
But I don't even recall it. But I think we're

40:31
even actually I think we've which is good. Everyone's a winner. Yes, yes. So, listeners. Are you feeling brave enough to tell us what you have in your house? Or do you want to share with us what has made you think about this list of 10 things? And maybe you're like, Yeah, I need to be brave. And get rid of some of this stuff. Let us know either in our Facebook group, go to declutter. hub.com forward slash group. Go tell us in the comments on the you're if you're watching on YouTube, you can leave us a comment or if you're listening on our website, declutter.com. You can leave a comment on the podcast page. So we would love to know so thank you so much for for being here. We appreciate you. And we see you next week.

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GLORIANNE says:

8 December 2023 at 4:52 PM

I truly enjoy your podcasts. I confess to have 5 out of the 10.
1. CDs, DVDs, and vinyl- I am putting that on my after the holidays to do list.
2. Unfinished craft projects- as a crafter this is a tough one, I know so many are still aspirational so another task to put on the list for after the holidays.
Collectibles- another difficult one because of value. I need to look further into this category.
Furniture- I have one chair in the attic. My plan is to get help to bring it down and call for bulk pick-up.
Special occasion dresses- I took photos of the old bridesmaid dresses, and daughters' prom dresses and donated them, but I still have wedding dresses, great grandma's crocheted baby blankets, and baptism gowns. The issue with these is that several of the items belong to my daughters. I have two old cedar chests and I've decided I will add those to their chests and let them handle them someday.
Happy Holidays!

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1. Ingrid Jansen says:
  
  8 December 2023 at 5:46 PM
  
  Thank you for sharing with us Glorianne. We love hearing from our listeners.
  
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